Appreciating the Romantic Within

While jumping headfirst into ‘romance mode’ is fun and exciting, after a while it will start to become stale just like a relationship can.  Being romantic can always be fresh and fun as long and the couple understands what the motives are behind the romance and the underlying intentions.  Understanding romance is the most important part of being romantic.

When you decide that you want to begin being romantic, you usually take it slow and carefully consider what your partner likes and prefers when it comes to gifts, actions and gestures.  Each romantic expression should have a significant meaning behind it.  How you are going to be romantic is far more important that why you are going to be romantic.  The process of how you are going to be romantic generally encompasses the ‘why’ in a much bigger way and is far more effective in conveying any message.

A Creative Romantic Lives in You

Why is it that so many people believe that they don’t have time or take the initiative to be romantic?  Maybe most people don’t believe that they are creative enough to be romantic.  Everyone is creative!  The definition of being creative is having the ability or power to create.  The word create offers a much broader definition than most people accept when it comes to the process of being able to come up with something original or simply well thought out.

Gifts that are considered to be traditionally romantic like candy and flowers are wonderful, but sometimes you need something that goes one step further.  If your spouse enjoys flowers, you don’t have to settle for roses because they can sometimes become unexciting after a while!  Present him or her with something completely original such as a daisy or another flower where petals can be counted.  Ask him or her to play the childhood game of ‘they love me, they love me not’ and watch them pluck the petals as they go.  However, don’t allow for the possibility of him or her arriving at the ‘they love me not’.  Count the petals before you present the flower to your spouse and trim it so that there is an odd number of petals for the right outcome!

A Little Goes a Long Way

Relationships are never always easy.  It is normal to hit some bumps in the road or to even have long stretches where you and your partner have a hard time connecting.  Couples who are lucky enough to seem to get along more often than not have probably discovered a little secret early on in their marriage.  That secret is to show love and affection in little ways often- not always in big ways when things seem to be going badly or when an apology is in order!

Imagine stopping on the way home from work and picking wildflowers from alongside the road for your spouse.  She may have had a difficult day on the job, the kids were trying her patience or you both simply seem to have lost your intimacy lately.  If you were to walk in the door with a fist full of wildflowers you took the time to select just for her on the way home; you will have broken the surrounding atmosphere with love and consideration.  You both have the opportunity to start fresh with that one, small yet powerful gesture.

Getting Back to the Basics of Love and Romance

Almost every love story has the potential to begin as if it were a fairy tale.  “Once upon a time, two people fell passionately in love and their love was unlike any others before theirs.”  Relationship beginnings are wonderful and they can experience a ‘rebirth’ with a wedding, honeymoon and the exciting first year of marriage.  Once a couple begins to grow and their lives change with jobs, children, social activities and other commitments, the love and romance becomes more difficult to attend to.  Sometimes love and romance seem to be lost altogether.  This destiny is not unavoidable if you want to rekindle the passion or simply bring it to a new level by becoming a hopeless romantic.

Have a Love Affair with Your Spouse

Mort Katz once said that “Love is its own aphrodisiac and is the main ingredient for lasting sex.”  If you’ve got love and you’re working on the romance, your own incredible love affair with your spouse is just waiting to break free!  Do you know what turns your partner on?  Are you aware of his or her most intimate, secret fantasies?  Most people make assumptions about what their spouse likes based on external factors like what partners in previous relationships liked or what the latest magazine article claims to work.  Everyone likes something different and in the bedroom is no exception.  Now is the time to learn about your spouse, what you both want in the bedroom and what works for both of you as a couple.